Matthew 22:37-40 and 19:5-6
February 13 marked the grand opening of the StoneLake Church, and Pastor Chris began the first of a series of sermons called “Going All the Way.” The first is titled “Finding the ‘One.’” The series will challenge you in your marriage to be all that God intended it to be, and challenges those who are single, dating, or engaged, too, to looking for the person God wants for you.
The Big Idea: To be really successful in life, you have to find “The One.”
When Pastor Chris was a young boy, like about 2nd or 3rd grade, he thought this one girl was really cute and must be the one. He was too shy to do it himself, so he sent his best friend to her desk with a note for her saying something like, “Do you like me? Check ‘yes’ or ‘no.’” The next thing he knew, a wadded up ball of paper came flying back his way. He got the idea.
By the time high school rolled around, boyfriends and girlfriends many times think they’ve found The One, and they live for the next time they next see the other, texting and writing notes.
One day, Chris went into Winn-Dixie—and there she was, the cutest girl in the world. After that, he invented one excuse after another to go to Winn-Dixie to buy some inexpensive thing just so he might see her. The trouble was he didn’t know her schedule and often missed her. Just so he might see this girl on a regular basis, he put in an application and was hired by Winn-Dixie. It wasn’t long before he asked Amber out—but she said, “If you want to date me, you have to go to church.” Which, up to that point, he didn’t. But he really wanted to date her, so he began going to church, which led to his conversion.
As much as he loved Amber, the day he met her paled beside the day he met Jesus and Jesus turned his life around.
Your relationship challenge: Finding the “One.” Until you put Jesus as Number One in your relationship, you will be in a continual battle for self fulfillment, wanting your spouse, boyfriend, girlfriend, or fiancé to meet your needs.
When you become joined to your wife or husband in marriage, you are united in Heaven. This is a lifetime commitment. The world takes a lax view on commitment, and divorce is as easy as filling out a piece of paper. If your partner doesn’t put the lid on the toothpaste after using it, fold the laundry promptly, or put the toilet seat down, they aren’t meeting your needs and thus it must be okay to divorce them.
When you make Jesus Number One and your spouse number two, you will find your unconditional love for your spouse increases. Loving and keeping number two will be easier because you have the key component in common. And as you grow in Christ, your love grows because Jesus is the champion and perfecter of your faith.
Closing thought: Are you connected to the Number One, and are you leading your number two to connect to the Number One? There is no time like now to make your connection to Christ and to begin to lead your spouse to also connect so that you will have that key component in common.
Pastor Chris Williams
Cleburne Conference Center